When The Best Is Never Good Enough

It was all deja-vu when I read the email:
'You are the BEST gal friend I can ever possibly ask for. It's got nothing to do with you. It's just me. I love you but I'm still not ready for commitments. Perhaps I'm just not the marrying kind. I am happy with what we are now.'

The warning bells ring loud and clear. The pattern is all so clear. It's the same hellish thing over and over again....
What he really means is that I'm just not GOOD enough a gal for him to wanna settle down with.

While it warms my heart to hear the touching words of appreciation, it crushes me even more knowing that my relationship is built on a basis of no foreseeable, commitment-free future

It doesn't matter anymore how sweet his kisses are, how lovely his flowers can be or how thoughtful he has been. It all comes to naught.
One fine day, I know he's going to walk out of my life because he has met the RIGHT gal to marry.
It's an absolutely depressing truth.

You can Never Change His Style, Just Like You Can Never Change Him?

It is quite the revelation. A girl can never change a man, just like she can never change his style….

It may mean that I can possibly never change my boyfriend’s obsession with schedule and timeliness. And it can also mean that I’ll never get him to wear those Matrix-like long coats that I really like. Most importantly, it means that I’ll never get to change his warped sense of logic about expediency and horrors of all horrors, his views on our relationship.

But I live in the hope that maybe, with the right mindset and the appropriate method, I’ll be able to imperceptibly nudge him towards that certain desired direction. This is definitely not classified as attempting to change your man. Think of it more as a form of slight, just a slight, behavior modification…